A letter to my hypothetically gay daughter....

I read this letter yesterday.

I don't know how real it is, I have no reason to question it but so many things today are put on the internet. Real or not, these thoughts are out there.

Today I read this letter.

I started thinking what my letter to my daughter, almost 2 years old, would say if she came out to Ed and me at the dinner table one night when she is older. (Hard to do so right now since she can't talk)

Dear Evelyn,

We love you. We are proud of you. Nothing you told us tonight changes those facts. If anything, understanding how hard it may have been for you to say those words, "I'm gay", shows me what a strong woman you are. 

Hopefully your father and I have raised you to be an ally, knowing God loves all people. Some will tell you God doesn't love you anymore, you aren't welcome in this religion or you are no longer granted access to Heaven. Remember, God LOVES you, His creation. He never stops loving you. Nothing we as humans do can make Him stop loving you. I don't understand God's views on a lot of things but I know Paul wrote, "And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." A more recent Paul and John wrote, "All you need is love". I agree with both. I hope we have given you a proper education in the Bible and 60s British pop.

Your lifestyle may change now that you have told us you're gay. We will adjust accordingly. Whatever details need to be worked out, they will fall into place as long as the foundation of love continues. Our home has always been and will continue to be a safe space filled with respect and communication.

If I was silent for a moment or two when you told me it was because I was rethinking all the moments we have shared, looking for hints of your sexuality, not because I was disappointed in any way. I may have questions about when and how you knew but I don't need to ask those right now. I want you to still be able to talk with me about who you choose to share your time and life with. I will still have my opinions of your partners since I will always be your mother. But I can promise none of my opinions will be slanted just because you date women. They will be slanted if I don't like their attitude, number of tattoos, piercings or traffic tickets.

I hope you never doubted our love and acceptance of you. We are your #1 fans and always will be.

Love,

Mom (and Dad).